Take a stack of paper.
Write the first name from the list at the top of the first sheet of paper (‘the first column’).
Below (‘the second column’), write why you are resentful (or why you feel hurt, threatened, injured, etc.)
Be concrete—list the person’s acts or words of omission or commission.
Be concise—no waffle, no back-story, not even how it affected you or made you feel—that will come later.
Stick to the facts. Avoid generalization, interpretation, extrapolation, or speculation.
What did the camera see.
What did the microphone hear.
Do not write on the back of the paper: you’ll need this later on!
If you get very bogged down, try meditating for a few minutes on what the cause is, and ask God to show you. Try leaving it and coming back the next day. Try discussing it with another person to pinpoint exactly why you are resentful.
Nothing counted but thoroughness and honesty. (p. 65).
This means that complex analysis etc. is irrelevant: with each item, you need ask yourself only ‘am I being thorough?’ and ‘am I being honest?’ If you are, you are doing it right. Be a camera, not an analyst. Keep it simple.
Stick to five charges per person, max.