Anxiety
Arguing
Arrogance
Attention-seeking
Avoiding amends
Avoiding intimacy
Bad-temperedness
Beating yourself up
Being different to gain an identity
Believing feelings
Believing you’re special & different
Bitching
Bitterness
Black-and-white thinking
Blame
Boasting
Brusqueness
Bullying
Charm
Choosing chaos
Choosing short-term gain over long-term pain
Coldness
Complaining
Complying just to gain approval
Compulsive busyness
Concealing the truth
Contempt
Controlling
Criticising
Defensiveness
Denial
Despair
Dismissing people
Distortion
Dominating conversations
Duvet-diving
Embellishment
Envy
Exaggeration
Exhibitionism
Expectation
Fantasy
Fire-fighting (only dealing with the urgent)
Fishing for compliments
Fitting in to gain an identity
Fixing
Flattery
Focusing on people who don’t like you
General
Generalisation
Giving people attention only when they ignore you
Giving to get
Gossiping
Graciousness
Greed/gluttony
Guilt
Gullibility
Hatred
Hypersensitivity
Hypocrisy
Ignoring people
Imbalance between different areas of life
Impatience
Impoliteness
Inaction
Inappropriate self-expression
Inconsistency
Indecision
Indifference
Indiscretion
Inflexibility
Ingratiation
Interfering
Intolerance
Irrationality
Isolating
Jealousy
Judging
Lack of discipline
Lack of perspective
Lack of proportion
Lack of self-evaluation
Lying
Making (excessive) demands
Malice
Managing situations
Manipulation
Martyrdom
Mercilessness
Mistrust
Monkey-mind (mental restlessness)
Mothering
Negativity
Neglect
Nostalgia
Not asking for help
Not listening
Not playing enough
Not resting
Not setting boundaries
Not spending enough
Not working enough
Obsessing
Over-ambition
Over-analysing
Over-dependence
Overeating
Overspending
Overworking
Patronisation
Perfectionism
Pessimism
Physical violence
Procrastination
Projection
Provocation
Pulling rank
Punishing
Rearranging the deckchairs on the Titanic
Recklessness
Repeating mistakes and expecting different results
Resistance to change
Retaliation
Rigidity
Sarcasm
Saying ‘no’ too often
Saying ‘yes’ too often
Scaring people
Scorn
Secretiveness
Self-centeredness
Self-consciousness
Self-doubt
Self-importance
Selfishness
Self-justification
Self-neglect
Self-obsession
Self-pity
Self-righteousness
Self-satisfaction
Sense of fraudulence
Shame
Shaming people
Showing off
Sloth
Stealing stuff
Stealing other people’s crises and making them your own
Stewing
Sticking your head in the sand
Suspicion
Taking people for granted
Tunnel-vision
Verbal abuse
Withdrawing
Withholding the truth
Withholding yourself
Worry
Zero–sum thinking