“Then we resolutely turn our thoughts to someone we can help.” (Page 84, Big Book)
If things that are annoying or upsetting happen, initially I don’t talk about them. I might write a three-word note to get the item out of my head, but then I get on with the day. Almost everything goes away of its own accord.
The little that sticks in the craw will have to be dealt with later.
Sparks need kindling to turn into a fire. Don’t give them kindling.